[misstree]

Hi Valentine

Thank you for sharing! I share very similar sentiments.

I may only be 29, but already I feel exhausted from the performance of it all. For too long, I’ve tried to contort myself into shapes and personalities that I thought would make me more desirable but it just made me anxious and miserable.

It’s not easy, but resting into who we are and listening to our still, small voice is ultimately way more serving than constantly running on a never-ending treadmill, trying to figure out which is the best “permutation” of ourselves to present to the world. It may be the diehard romantic in me speaking, but I’ll like to believe that the right people will want to meet the whole us, not just bits and fragments.

Hope you find some small comfort in knowing you’re not alone on this often-frustrating (but still rewarding) journey! <3

[misstree]

+ When you’re out with a group of coupled-up friends and you’re the only single person.

+ When you have something you want to share, and you think of the last person you were romantically involved with (whom you can no longer share these things with). “Having something to say and no one to hear it is so lonely.” – Love Warrior, Glennon Doyle Melton

+ When you’re being harassed by douchebags at a bar or wherever.

+ When you’re travelling and doing all kinds of exciting things with your life, but still feel like there’s a big piece of you missing.

[misstree]

Just read this and thought you guys might find it a refreshing perspective :)

[misstree]

Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar This isn’t really a book targeted at singles per se, but it is brimming with kindness, warmth, and wisdom, so it’s definitely worth a read.

Another book I enjoyed was Confessions Of A Latter-Day Virgin by Nicole Hardy, which talks about her experience of being single in the Mormon church.

Also, I really love this super honest and touching article from Flame writer Briony Smith – Why Being Single Sucks: What No One Wants to Talk About

• This reply was modified 8 years, 8 months ago by misstree.

[misstree]

Hi beachbum

Thanks for your heartfelt response! I’ve read your comments on the other threads, and I get a sense you often vacillate between frustration and acceptance, which I totally get! And like what Sara mentioned again and again in her book, it’s completely normal to have a whole jumble of conflicting feelings. It’s 100 percent human nature. We just have to be patient with ourselves and make space for all these feelings.

A quote that helps me is one from Cheryl Strayed – “Acceptance is a small, quiet room.” It reminds me that acceptance doesn’t have to be a big, grand gesture. It can be a softness, a yielding of our hearts to whatever may be.

Sending you happy thoughts :D

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