For me, I see loss of optimism part of my single life. I’m almost 39 years old and have been single for many many years now, not by choice, and there are many periods of time (especially during hot long summers) when I’m just wondering what the hell is going on with my life, and why is it all so gloomy?
Now, when I feel this way, I’ve learned that the best medicine is to let it be, just live with it, don’t panic, treat yourself to the things you love (for me, nothing beats a glass of wine on my balcony, or watching a good TV show surrounded by my pets on the couch), and one morning you will wake up and feel less crappy, and and eventually it will pass.
I am sending you a big virtual hug and letting you know: you are not alone!